Accepting Your Forever

You are single and you desire marriage. You are divorced and you don’t know how this could have happened. You are separated but you thought you married your forever. You were dating and you thought you were perfect for each other. You have been married over 29 years and marriage just doesn’t work anymore. Why?

Take a journey with me for these next few minutes as I provide some insight on the possible why. Many seek mates based on appearance, based on type, based on salary, based on occupation, based on religion, based on compatibility in the moment or in the season of life you are in, based on peer pressure to not be alone, based on the fact you have a child together etc. These perceptions, biases or preferences are important but there is one major ingredient missing.

I have held many relationship discussions, sat in many marriage conferences and attended marriage retreats, attended marriage small groups/ministries, counseled several couples and currently lead a marriage small group with my amazing husband. When couples get to a place of the “I want a divorce or this isn’t working out” it does not happen over night. There are warning signs, red flags, hints, moments of uncertainty; etc. but it is often overlooked.

Whatever the reason was that caused you to overlook the warning signs become a major speed bump in this thing called marriage or courting for marriage. The warning signs never go away; it blinks from time to time and then after a while of not adhering to the yellow light, it becomes a complete red light and if you don’t adhere to the stoplight, you could create a major accident that leaves both parties wounded and possibly never recovering from the trauma caused from refusing to stop. Remember after every red light there will soon be a green light if you patiently wait on the light to change as you move with caution before speeding through the red light.

When seeking a forever lifetime partner, the goal is to already know your purpose in life first. This is so important. Marriage was created to give Yahweh glory and to multiply his kingdom and his kingdom principles in the earth realm. He designed it to be a reflection of the church. Because He created the Union, He chose two people to come together for His purpose! According to scripture, therefore what Yahweh has joined together, let no man put asunder. The keywords are “what Yahweh has joined”. When Yahweh join two people together it is beyond your biases. Looks fade, muscles change, finances change for good or bad, occupations change etc. but your purpose never changes. When you marry to fulfill Yahweh’s purpose together in your life, no change in life can break your foundation.

For instance if you love someone while they are prosperous and Yahweh has allowed for a developmental season in stewardship ; once the money is gone you can not survive through the hard times because you married for security and status. When your spouse no longer decides to deliver purpose in the same arena and begins to expand to greater arenas, because you married for comfort you can not manage in overflow and greater responsibility. When you were once the submissive spouse to the successful spouse and now your success over shadows their success, you are now no longer compatible because you were comfortable in the marriage as the leader in success. When you understand purpose and that changes will come; no matter what circumstance occurs you can weather the storm because you know your marriage has purpose and if anything is allowed to test the foundation; you KNOW that it is always going to work for your good. Temporary setbacks were not meant to end the journey; it was meant to prune the dead areas in your life and develop the areas that need growth and expansion.

Purpose says this may be a setback in our finances but because we serve an unlimited provider this is temporary! Purpose says since we have outgrown this phase, let’s plan together to move on to the next phase. Purpose says we use to hurt in these areas but together we are healing and moving forward in Yahweh. Purpose says even though we may walk through the valley of the shadow of death, we will fear no evil. Purpose says with Yahweh all things are possible. Purpose says if Yahweh be for us, who can be against us! Your forever purpose partner is meant to fulfill purpose and NOT temporary circumstances. Marriage was created to only be separated in death.

Discover purpose and women wait on your purpose partner while you operate in purpose and let him cultivate that purpose with you. Men know purpose, live in purpose and lead in purpose for your marriage! What is the key to a forever, marry on purpose!!! Your purpose may not be the same as any other marriage and that is ok because each marriage is unique and you two were created to be together to make it come alive in this lifetime…

Share this blog with your family and friends and let’s develop and maintain purpose driven marriages that Yahweh puts together. Yahweh bless you and give you peace!

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