Becoming One… Part 2

Welcome back to part 2 of Becoming One. I hope you have enjoyed part one. In part 2 we will focus on the importance of getting to know you and discovering your purpose. Too often we start courting someone having no clue of who we are. The hopes are that the relationship will help you define who you are or it will complete you. Wrong answer, because the relationship is only suppose to build on who you are and make you better. You are supposed to come into the relationship as a whole individual. Anything contrary to this gives the spouse the opportunity to tell you who you are as opposed to Yahweh revealing to you who you are first. Let him confirm who you are.

Let’s dive into what knowing who you are can provide. Knowing who you are can help you say yes to a spouse that was chosen by God because you have standards that are non compromising. Knowing who you are will allow you to admit to your shortcomings that are still requiring guidance in the spirit realm to help you mature. For example, if you are still hurting from a previous relationship, heal first. A rebound can be a temporary fix that creates new hurt. If you are still getting upset emotionally from the words of others that are contrary to who Yahweh says you are, you are not ready for marriage just yet. You still desire validation from man and not Yahweh. This behavior creates room for disappointment and consistent heartache. Take time to grow in that area. When you are confident in who you are, you will not willingly let a man tear you down due to his insecurities because you know who you are. This is a must! When you know who you are in Christ, your body will be the temple of the Holy Spirit and you will not let any boy (notice I didn’t say man) enjoy it like it is a toy. When you know who you are, you desire a mate that can compliment what you have already built in Christ. When you know who you are, a man should only confirm the woman you are. This is the beginning stages of adorning yourself as a wife and not a girlfriend. Because you walk in confidence, he will recognize confidence and respect it or leave. Notice I said confidence and not pride. The difference is, you understand that it is because of Yahweh that you are who you are and not because of your own vain authority and self approval. Know thyself before inviting another human being into your space.

When you know thyself, you will attract what is on the inside of you, because you took the time to adorn yourself with the word of God and let Him provide surgery on your life to equip you according to his word to become who you are in Him. Have you ever heard the saying, you attract what’s within you. In other words if you keep meeting the same guys over and over again and you are not satisfied with the outcome, then there is something within you that is drawing them to you. What I required of them, I also possessed. Side note: It is selfish to make a requirement in another person that you can not fulfill yourself. Keep in mind just because you know yourself, does not eliminate the opportunity for meeting counterfeits. The benefits of knowing yourself and having a true relationship with God will reveal to you the counterfeits. Trust and know that just because you satisfy the prerequisites, don’t mean you line up with my purpose.

Your purpose is your reason for existence. According to the dictionary, understanding purpose can guide life decisions, influence behavior, shape goals, offer a sense of direction, and create meaning. In other words when you know your reason for existence, you can make wise decisions, accept or reject positive or negative influential behavior, live out your goals, and create meaning and direction for your life. Sounds like a purposeful healthy life to me. Purpose is often related to your vocation for existence and is tied to your gifts and talents. Your gifts and talents all line up to your God given purpose. It is seeking Yahweh that will provide His true existence for you living in such a time as this. It is my belief that each person was given their specific birth date and death date to fulfill something in the earth realm that only you can fulfill. Once you have discovered your purpose in life, you will understand that who you choose to say yes to in marriage should also complement that purpose. If you have two different meanings for existence in life the scripture states in Amos 3:3 how can two walk together except they be agreed. There will always be division where there is no agreement. Marriage is a covenant created by God for his glory. Why not strive to seek Him for marriage so that in the end He can get the glory for what He has joined together. As a single woman get to know yourself first and your purpose for existence before seeking marriage. Remember you are to be found, and the only way to be found is to be prepared.

I hope that part two has been beneficial and encouraging to your spirit as you prepare to be a wife one day. Leave me some comments on how you feel part 1 and part 2 have impacted your life. Within the comments you can select to be notified when the next post will be available on my blog. I appreciate you taking the time out to read my blog and may the Lord lead, guide and direct and order your steps as you pursue marriage. Part 3 will talk about becoming one. Stay tuned…