Marry on Purpose

It was in the year of 2008 in the month of June that I was consumed with the women’s ministry Divine Diva’s that I declared during a women’s bible study that I would get married again…. At the time I was a very young widow. That is a story for another time. I knew that God informed me through the Holy Spirit that the ministry he has on the inside of me will not come to full fruition until I was married again. I made the declaration and believed the declaration and did not put a time limit on what I believed in. From that moment on I begin to consume myself in the Word and continue with the women’s ministry. I wasn’t out looking for a husband desperately, I just trusted Yahweh (God in Hebrew) to fulfill his promise. The scripture declares Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). It does not state that I must go searching, it states I must be found. So in the meantime I equipped myself to be a woman of God and a wife at the same time through the assistance of reading “The Power of a Praying Woman” and “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian. Just because you are a woman does not make you a wife. There are characteristics, principles and prayer etc. that prepare you to be a wife; which is why you have to be found. You can not be found if you are not wife material. You are a wife before you become a wife. Every woman can walk into a room of men seeking to find a wife but if she is not adourned in the qualities of wife she can not be found. This does not mean that she wears the outerappearance of a wife to include wearing the most expensive outfit, having on the best makeup and obtaining the best hairstyle in the room. This is an internal antenna that sends an alarm to a man seeking a wife. When wife walks into the room; every man seeking a wife radar goes off. She may not necessarily be his wife but she is definitely wife material and they notice her.

One of the major events I hosted as an event for Divine Divas was planning a fashion show. We decided to invite several singles ministries from different churches to either participate in the fashion show or attend the fashion. Flyers were made and provided to the different ministries. I received several replies of many different talents to participate in the fashion show, to include; models, designers, mimers, praise dancers, etc. But there was one particular guy that called me that stuck out for some reason. I remember I was driving down the road and I received a call from an unknown number. I answered the phone and the male stated that he was inquiring about the fashion show flyer he saw at his ministry and he was interested in placing some of his suits in the show. He wanted details on how to be a participant of the fashion show and he was very professional. I asked for his name and needless to say he provided me his first and last name which I thought was cute. I provided him with the next steps leading up to the very first practice; which was held at my house at the time. On the way to my house, he got lost. I had to talk to him all the way to my house. When he arrived he backed into the driveway as if he already lived there. I was led to be the one to open the door for him. He stated that he was coming to not only be in the fashion show, but to find a wife. He said when the door was opened his spirit paused and that had never happened before. He said it was as if everything stood still for a few seconds. He mingled with everyone and I played hostess with everyone. Once it was time for rehearsal I requested his advice on a few performances. I asked if he mind being in the formal scene with me and he agreed. We went over the songs that would be played for each scene and went through the entire show a few times.

The day of the fashion show arrived and everyone contributed accordingly to ensure everything ran smoothly. His mom and two sisters at the time arrived to the fashion show and he asked if he could introduce me to them. Before introducing me, his mom knew who I was without ever seeing a picture of me. She greeted me as if I was already in the family. After the formal scene together; without much practice we were an in sync duo. Those that knew the spirit, immediately knew that there was more to us than just a meeting for an event. Remember I knew that I would get married again and in the meantime, I spent time with God getting to know my purpose and discovered who I was and what I was to do for the kingdom. Once I made it to the dressing room there was something that came over me that I could not shake. A friend of mine recognized my state of overwhelming joy as if I was in a trance and asked me if I was ok. I said yes and she gave me a quick smirk as to say I know what that is all about.

As the days went on we continued to talk on the phone. He shared his purpose and what He desired for a wife and a marriage and I continued to work in full time ministry. The fashion show was in June. In August we made a covenant vow to begin courting exclusively. In April he proposed and in May we were married. It was our purpose that bought us together. I was an event planner and he was a designer. It was also our obedience that made it come to pass. I was instructed to be the one to open the door when he arrived and because of my obedience he met his wife spiritually before physically. Our spirits agreed before our flesh accepted. It wasn’t until after the fashion show that it was confirmed for me that he was my husband. Marriage is a covenant and what therefore God hath joined together, let no one put asunder (Mark 10:9). What God put together; it is always for his glory! Strive to marry on purpose!